Be compassionate to the needy, Neither squander wealth nor hoard it. Never lose your sense of shame, if questions are asked of you, answer them frankly but do not ask too many yourself. Be manly and of good cheer. Never kill a foe who is begging for mercy and be ever loyal in love
Own your own way
Do Not Go Where The Path May Lead, Go Instead Where There Is No Path And LEAVE a TRAIL .... By R. Waldo Emerson
At last I Married Yasemin on 11\09\2011 at 6:30 in Uskudar. we had been dating for 6 and half years by the time we married. She is from Trabzon which is placed in east part of Turkey and i live in Istanbul which is in west so it was a little bit difficult for us to have ceremonies and it was also a bit expensive. Anyway we are together and the rest is not important. However i have understood that marriage life is pretty different than the dating, i thought nothing was going to change and we were going our path as we always did but it did not happened like that; firstly you have to deal with everything on your own-the bills, shopping, neighbours, and the problems. My wife Yasemin cannot cook, it is not because of her laziness or incapability but because of lacking of time as we leave the house at 6 in the morning and she comes home at 7 I arrive at about 10 pm because i have two jobs. i am supposed to work much because i have so many debts and i have to pay them as soon as possible. Nowadays i am in dilemma that my first job ( ACA) has offered me better conditions than here except working in the evenings and weekends but i have signed a deal with Doga high school, the conditions here are very difficult than the former because i have to apply so many things that i cannot write here. i should prepare students both for international English language testing system( IELTS), Cambridge ESOL, KET, PET and also university entrance exam. If i quit my job here i could be punished 5000 tl because i give up before the time is over. i have to decide what i should do by the end of this month. i hope i can do the best for my family.
WISH ME LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!
YES IT IS VERY SOON I AM GOING TO MARRY THIS WEEK. MY FIRST CEREMONY WILL BE IN TRABZON ON 08/09/2011 AT 8 O CLOCK AT ORJIN WEDDING HALL AND MY SECOND WEDDING CEREMONY WILL BE IN ISTANBUL ON 11/09/2011 AT ÜSKÜDAR MUNICIPALITY WEDDING HALL. IT HAS BEEN A TOTAL 7 YES SEVEN YEARS SINCE WE MET SINCE I LOVED YASEMIN SO AT LAST WE CAN MARRY WE CAN DESTROY ALL HANDICAPS WE CAN IGNORE EVERYBODY AND WE MARRY. I AM SO HAPPY ALTHOUGH THERE ARE SOME BOTHERING THINGS SUCH AS THE MONEY I SPENT AND RELATIVES. I DO NOT WANT TO MAKE MY MOTHER AND MY WIFE SAD, I TRY TO FIND MIDDLE WAY BUT ITI IS VERY HARD TO FOLLOW. MY MOTHER IS A VILLAGER AND SHE ACTS ACCORDING TO IT. SHE EXPECTS HER DAUGHTER IN LAWS TO BEHAVE AS SHE BEHAVED WHEN MY MOTHER WAS A BRIDE HOWEVER SHE IS NOT AWARE THAT TIME HAS CHANGED AND THIS IS NOT VILLAGE AND THE BRIDES ARE NOT FROM OUR VILLAGE OR THEY ARE NOT OUR RELATIVES SO IT IS NATURAL FOR THEM TO BEHAVE IN AN UNUSUAL, OPPOSITE WAY. THATS WHY THE PROBLEM OCCURS. ANYWAY I HOPE WE CAN HANDLE THE SITUATION. TAKE CARE MY DEAR BLOG. I MISS WRITING HERE.
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